let's talk about the Vogue article

Let’s talk about THE British Vogue article that came out recently. Chanté Joseph recently wrote an article for British Vogue titled “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?” Whether Joseph expected it or not, this article has completely taken over the internet. 

The points made in Joseph's article were more focused on being an independent woman and the ways a man can ruin her aesthetic, social media, status, or style. Personally, as a single woman, I can understand some of these points, as there truly is a certain energy that radiates from an independent, single woman. 

However, this topic can go a lot deeper than the single energy of a woman. Dating and romance have become extremely casual, shallow, and, in all honesty, very toxic. Between “Situationships”, “Long Term, Long Distance, Low Commitment, Casual Girlfriend”, and hardly receiving the bare minimum while on a date or in a relationship, dating is absolutely not the same as when our parents, grandparents, and many others were pursuing a romantic relationship.

The ability to be a single woman allows for an opportunity for her to reach her fullest potential, tap into her authentic self, and learn how to be self-sufficient by not relying on a man. Additionally, there is the matter of extreme violence and sexism that women have been enduring for more years than anyone can count.

If I were to ask a man, “Have you ever felt demeaned, violated, or objectified?”, most of us would probably assume he would say “No” or “What do you mean?” However, asking a woman this question is a completely different scenario. Being a woman in this day and age is extremely empowering, but countless injustices come with it. Women are objectified, catcalled, dismissed, ignored, sexualized, disrespected, and much more on a daily basis.

Overall, falling in love and finding a partner shouldn’t be embarrassing because some people are naturally gravitated toward falling in love and finding a romantic relationship. At the same time, at this point in history, women understand that we don’t need a man to be fulfilled in life. We can live a full, enjoyable, meaningful life without men or romance overall. Friendships, girlhood, platonic soulmates, careers, and so many more connections can fulfill our lives. 

As women, no one should tell us what to do, how to live, or set expectations in our lives that we aren’t looking for within ourselves. Party until the sun comes up, don’t have kids, fall in love with life, find a platonic soulmate, or travel until your passport is full. Life is yours, and no one (especially a man) should be altering your way of life, especially when you have reached a point of happiness, joy, self-love, and fulfillment. Remember your worth, and rock on.

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